Truth & Consequences

How far is too far, and how little is too little. I have been researching the Parental situations that exist after breakup, the child support system and how well it doesn’t work.

In Canada our courts and the child maintenance act look after our family problems. A problem that should be common sense has become complex and difficult. Entwined with child welfare and the force of political power, our families have become little more than pawns in a big business deal and psychological power play.
The government in all its wisdom has decided to step in to the fray and using some old psychology has completely gone off track with children and families. The laws regarding maintenance and children are the most out of whack. The government should have hired an accounting consultant to tell them what to do.

For example: A man earning 1800 dollars take home (net)(about 14.00 per hour) is paying (by law) 40% of his gross (of about 26,000.00 a year) which works out to about $8000.00 take that away from a net of $21,000.00 a year equals $13,600.00 a year net take home. Considering rents at about an average 6 -800 dollars per month..that leaves about $4000.00 to $5,000.00 a year to pay car insurance, food and telephone and any medical bills. That leaves exactly nothing.

Men who have undergone this bureaucratic nightmare find that the system enforces them into being poor, their “children” receiving payments once a month through a “lawful” enforcement system, although the other parent recieves the money in actuality. The men have nowhere to go and often go under the table to get income to survive with.

In most cases spouses remarry or move in with a new boyfriend. In some cases they are not doing well but in cases where the spouse has access to large amounts of funding and does not need the high level of income.

Men know something should be done and are organizing. This law is not fair. In fact many men have jumped ship and moved out of country because of the law. Not a nice thought to have to leave your kids behind and throw away your lifetime of work.

Men have had car insurance pulled so they cannot drive, or even a fishing license, and with so little to live on getting to work really means the difference between surviving and living under a bridge. The law is draconian and it is justified by the fact that there were a few men who tried to avoid their responsibilities.

Antagonistic spouses love this law. Males find themselves with no access, outright lies and even the misleading of the legal system to get even. This does not bode well for a man trying to make a living. Most men love their kids and will support them, they do not want to support an antagonistic spouse. Access is the important part and as long as they have it men will continue to pay even if it is unfair. Reduced time with the children should result in less payment to the children, that would force spouses to keep their times, supply the children often and keep the peace.

To sum up this law or set of laws needs to be simplified and to fit the realitys of daily life in Canada. Paying all of ones excess income does not allow for error, cost of living, medical problems or loss of work. It has to be paid or else. And I wonder how many men suicide as a result of their failure to pay.

More on this subject in the future..

Physically the past is or was a reality that we perceived and enjoyed and now is gone. The only record of it is in our minds or records that we artificially create, such as media.

Everything we are is mimicked in our lives. The way we do things is mimicked in the tools we use, the way we think is mimicked in our actions. The past is only a record of these things so that we may not make the same mistakes again and also to give us the knowledge to handle future survival situations like in the past.

Our pasts are each different as we all experience things that are different. The way we perceive and experience them is the same. They can be recalled in present time so that we may use that knowledge or feel pleasure at our accomplishments.

We can also feel the pain of past failure.

Anything in the past which has a failure or pain can replay on us in present time. This is a well known phenomena but many ignore it because of indifference or ignorance. It is the largest killer of all time. It has no equal. If one failed in the past it would make sense to think that one would learn from that and prevent failure again. NOT TRUE. That is definitely an old wives tale.

The fact is that there is another mechanism at work here that can cause a repetition of a particular incident or portion of an incident in the present. A good example is the person who is accident prone.

Time after time getting hurt for no apparent reason. This is a physical example, but how about it affecting our perceptions, eyes for instance or speech, smell and hearing. All are affected.

The most crucial thing affected by past failure is memory and data. To have correct memory is very important, even more so to be able to communicate correct information to others. If someone tells another data that is incorrect it may cause arguments, fights and even death. It may be crucial data needed in an emergency or in the event of any created product, which could result in injury or death.

A lot of our society is wrapped up in figuring out how this mechanism works, but will not acknowledge the reality of it. Pain is usually the accompanying peice of failure. Look at the drunk, the druggie and the homeless. A pain that is a constant memory of failure. They present it to the world every day, unable to feel joy or comfort because of the overriding past failure.

The key to accessing the actual incident that caused the problem in the present is by accessing by memory, the past. However most painful times are hidden by the strength of the pain recorded there and one other thing, “unconciousness.” Without a correct approach to this moment of pain and unconciousness no access to the painful incident will happen. This all changed about 60 years ago with the advent of Dianetics. It supplied the technique to access something called the “engram”, a moment of pain and unconciousness.

Once an engram has been found it is only a matter of time and repetitively going through what can be remembered of that time as if in that time currently. The mind is capable of that and does it easily, once an incident has been run through many times it starts to lose its hold and releases. Once that happens the pain and unconciousness vanish from memory and the memory can be remembered normally. It also releases what is sticking the person to his past failure and allows him to get on with his life.

A really amazing process, which can be applied to virtually every person, and to every science allowing less trial and error and more logic.

More to follow… if you want to read a book on the subject see this site Dianetics